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Law of Attraction Tip #2 April 24, 2011

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Funny how a choice and 24 hours can change things. This is sort of an update to yesterdays post, in which I made the commitment to commit. You can read it here to catch up.

Today, my co-worker and I were standing around minding the showroom. It’s the Saturday of the Easter long weekend and so, predictably our dealership was very slow. Eventually a younger man and his girlfriend came in and began browsing around. Now, for anyone who doesn’t understand the car sales industry, it can be extremely cutthroat at times, so when my co-worker motioned for me to take this customer I was taken aback. Normally the younger gentlemen who come in tend to look at the lower end of the spectrum in terms of our product but he was asking questions that didn’t suit that area, and so, after some talking back and forth I discovered that he was interested in our top of the line sports car. Wonderful! Younger guys like this tend to be tire kickers with no real desire to purchase, so imagine my surprise when I discoveredĀ  that he was able to drop cash for this particular automobile? Super wonderful! It turns out his father is a commercial real estate mogul in our city. Wow. Just my luck. šŸ˜‰ So he’s coming back next week to purchase the car with cash.

But that’s not all. My best friend actually called me a few minutes ago and asked if I was seeing anyone. The answer being no, he told me that he would like to set me up with a lady who is aiming to be a doctor! Imagine that? A heavily tattooed hippie guy who has never had a girlfriend, and a highly educated doctor and he thinks enough of us both to set us up on a date. I’ve no idea if it will work out, but two wonderful events in less than a day is more than coincidence.

The Law of Attraction is real. It works. You just need to be aware and recognize it for what it is. By being willing to commit, I attracted a committed buyer and a potentially committed woman. Go figure. That’s magic if I ever saw it.


Baby Steps to Inner Peace April 20, 2011

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I have a voice that longs to be heard. Peace to be shared. Love to be freely given. My strength is not in myself, but in those who have shared themselves with me.(Get your mind out of the gutter.) It is in the knowledge that peace is attainable and that love is infinite. This is the world that I see and the world that we all deserve to live in.

You may not believe as I do, but I promise you it is true. A friendly hug. A love letter. A hearty laugh. Even a kind thought, kept to yourself and directed at a passing stranger. Love is not meant to be directed at one particular person and it is not a grandiose gesture to be performed from time to time. Each one is a drop in the bucket, but the cumulative effect of which is not seen until the bucket overflows. It is the same with peace. Each of us is no more than a drop. Not particularly noticeable alone and easily burned away by the sun. But as a whole? We become infinitely more powerful. My strength is not in myself, it is in you, as yours is in me. Peace is the movement. Love is the answer.

But we are imperfect creatures in this perfect world. Both you and I take for granted those that we care the most for. We judge before we know. We ignore our own morals and justify it to ourselves. We fail and we fall. And we are lifted up again. We stand and move forward. Unfailingly and courageous. We all have an inner strength that shows itself in times of despair. When the night is blackest, our inner light shines and we are aware that the dwn is soon to break. We know that the night will always come and we know that the sun will always rise again. Yin and yang. There is no love without hurt, for how would we know what love feels like?

We have the strength to change, but to succeed we must accept. You must accept the racist and love them regardless. Accept the murderer the bank robber and the rapist. Have you walked their shoes? do you know the roads they have traveled?

“If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we would find sorrow and suffering enough to dispel all hostility.” Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

If you have not walked that road how could you possibly be the one to pass judgement? I have been abused in every way you can think of. Sexually. Physically. Mentally and emotionally. I have suffered tremendous hurts and yet I refuse to believe that there is anyone beyond help. I believe that I can be an end to the cycle of hatred and violence. If peace doesn’t begin right here and now, where DOES it begin? Forgiveness is divine. Could you forgive? Forgive the man who raped you or the murderer who took the life of the one closest to you? Will carrying the painĀ  in your heart undo what has been done? No, the only thing it accomplishes is to spread more hate in the world. To prematurely age you and to lessen the quality of your life. To carry hate is to become less than what you deserve to be Forgiveness does not mean to forget or to condone. It is to accept and to let go. Remember though, to forgive does not mean to forget or condone. It is merely letting go. I really truly honestly believe that love can rehabilitate even the most heinous of criminals while hatred does nothing but lessen the quality of your own life. You dampen your own magnificent spirit with hatred and become something less than what you are meant to be.

What if you knew that the man who molested you had lived through war. Watched his friends die around him and his family starve. Been taken in by those who only thought to abuse him and then left him to fend for himself. Would you still hate? Or just might you find some compassion in your heart. Right and wrong is not always a cut and dry matter. Morality comes in shades of gray sometimes, and the best we can do… well… the best we can do is love, and pray that it’s enough.


Random Thought #5 March 28, 2011

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I love you.


Random Thought #1 March 21, 2011

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We spend our lives searching for this great meaning. For some esoteric definition of what we are supposed to do with our lives. There is only one answer. That is Love. No matter where we go. No matter what we do or who we meet we must do it with love and meet them with love. And through love the world is changed. Little by little each one of us does our part. And little by little each of us can shift the consciousness of the world. Direct your love at someone who has wronged you. Direct it at someone who has wronged someone else. They are most in need of it. Direct your love at a beautiful piece of art. A passionately written song or a wonderful piece of literature. The more we do this, the more that these incredible things will present themselves to us.


Love and the Law of Attraction March 19, 2011

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We all want more love in our lives. More laughter. More intimacy. More passion in our interpersonal lives. And like the bottle of ketchup on the top shelf, we are blind to what’s right in front of our eyes.

For many years I lived a very lonely existence. Distant relationships with family. Friends who were not friends. A social circle that wasn’t much of a circle. More of an oblong shape than anything. My nights were spent alone, in darkness.

I was miserable because I felt alone and I was alone because I felt miserable. It was a vicious cycle, as the saying goes.

Overcoming this was a years long ordeal and all of the changes that I had to make will be shared in coming posts, but for now I’d like to relate my search for love directly to the Law Of Attraction.

The Law of Attraction is a fickle thing. You cannot force it or bend it to your will. It has a will of it’s own, wherein you play your part. Trying to control it and force the things that you want to manifest is like trying to force a cow to jump through a flaming hoop. It is simply an exercise in futility. When you simply allow it to do it’s thing, it’s truly amazing to behold.

Since I became aware of the Law, I’ve been trying to understand it and know it’s intricacies and how to “make it work. I’ve had on and off success, often with small things. Perhaps thinking of a song I haven’t heard in years, I would suddenly have the urge to listen to a new radio station and voila. Or setting out to find an old friend from a different part of Canada 20 years ago and, through a series of amazing coincidences, finding them living not a few blocks from me. These are just some of the events that have proven to me that the Law of Attraction truly exists.

Now, last year at about this time (That would be 2010) I had managed to get under my control some of the issues that I had been dealing with over the last few years, and now I needed a new goal. That goal was to attract more love. Don’t get me wrong, I was living with my best friends at the time and we dearly love each other. I was looking for something deeper though. So I made a solid decision. Not just thought about wanting. Really decided, that I wanted more and deeper love in my life.

During that time, my13 year old brother was in and out of the local childrens hospital, eventually being diagnosed with severe colitis. It was difficult time for my family, and the fact that I lived almost an hour from them made things even tougher.

Things started to change for me about a month after I made the decision to have more love. My mother had just bought a second house for my sister and nephew to live in with a friend of hers. They began doing their renovations to get things ready and eventually I was recruited to help. Suddenly, I was spending every weekend with my mother, stepfather, sister and nephew. After I moved out of my parents home I began to drift from those relationships when I moved into the city, got a job and began working long hours. It felt good to reconnect with my family after all this time. Shortly after beginning renovations, my sisters roommate to be backed out of their arrangement and so I was offered the suit that we were building in the basement. I was fairly comfortable living with my friends in the city but this just felt right, and so I took up the offer. And so now I was living with my sister and young nephew, only a few minutes from my father and sick brother.

About a month before the house was ready my brother was admitted again to the hospital with complications and severe symptoms of his disease, and within weeks we were told that he was going to have his large intestine removed. And so I decided that I wanted to be there when he got home. I told my friends that I would be moving out within the month and asked my father if I could have the spare room for a time. So I moved home for 2 weeks, was there while my brother recovered and then moved into my new place with my sister 2 weeks later.

When I made my decision, I had been thinking more about romantic love and it took me some time to realize what had happened. I got what I TRULY wanted. I renewed and deepened relationships with everyone in my family. I’ve been watching my nephew while my sister goes to school and I really enjoy that. When a child hugs you with love it’s a really wonderful feeling. I sit and chat with my sister when she gets home late at night and that’s something that we have never done. I can call up my brother and go over any time I want. I’ve even cultivated a relationship with my father whom I harbored a lot of resentment towards. We’ve gone to concerts together and sometimes just sit and talk. I never thought that this would happen. I’ve spent more time with my mother in the last year than I did in possibly the last 15 years. This is the love that I really desired.

My relationships with my friends have also deepened. I’ve made new ones and left behind the ones that did not vibe with where my life was headed. I have really been blessed by love and though it isn’t exactly what I had in mind, like I said, it’s exactly what wanted in my heart.

The universe knows EXACTLY what’s in your heart. It knows what you really mean when you decide what you want. You just have to go with the flow.


Peace and love and kinder surprises to you all.


Who am I and why are you here? March 8, 2011

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Welcome. The purpose of this website is simply to spread a little love in the world. More specifically, it’s a place for those who are in need of some love in their lives. For people going through a run of bad luck. For people who are just having a rough day. For people going through depression and addictions who, perhaps…. have had not such splendid lives.

So who am I and why am I doing this? Well, I’m just a humble plumber from Canada. My life, like many of yours, has had it’s ups and downs. As a child, teenager and young adult, I endured so many painful events in my life that I felt were beyond my control. Crippling depression was a way of life for me. Eventually this manifested itself into physical self abuse, thoughts of suicide and alcoholism. And then something changed. I made what I thought was a fairly insignificant decision. It was vague and far too open ended. But looking back now, I can see it was a catalyst for everything.

And now, though I’m far from perfect, I can honestly say that I’m happy. Of course I still have my down days, but I also have moments of complete joy that bring tears to my eyes. I have more than enough love in me to share than I could ever have thought. I want spread some joy while I’m in the world.

I’ve never been particularly eloquent. I’m not a great speaker and am in fact a man of few words. I’m not the alpha male type though I do believe that I’m quietly confident and charismatic. I am, however, a wonderful listener and I have a heart for people, particularly those going through difficult times. I’m quick with a hug and a smile. I really hope that my personality comes across as I share my own story in blog posts as well as share the music, movies, books, quotes and everything else that I’ve discovered to help me in my journey. Most importantly though, I hope this site helps to bring a smile to your day.

And that’s all I really want right now. What I intend for this site right now is still very much a work in progress. It may end up becoming something completely different than what I had originally set out to do and that’s alright. There’s no point in fighting the current so lets just see where things take us.

Much Love.


“My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.” His Holiness The Dalai Lama