I love the old adage “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”. But I believe that’s only part of it. Yes, we should treat others as we wish to be treated, but I think that there is something that’s even more important. “Do unto yourself as you would have others do unto you.”. Equally important. How often do we give give give to others while giving nothing to ourselves. We do not realize that we MUST love ourselves before we can truly love others. Try as you might you will never find joy in the things you do. You may be successful in a career, but you will not be happy. You may have a successful relationship, but you will not be truly happy in it. Try as you might, something will always be missing.
It is a difficult thing to take time for yourself when there are so many demands on each moment of your day, is it not? Actually, it’s not. There are simpole things that you can do that are just for you and no-one else. A simple one that takes not time, when you get out of the shower don’t t cover yourself in a towel. Take an extra moment to look in the mirror and notice one thing that you like about your body. Remember, there are no flaws. Perfection is what you must see. I don’t even believe in flaws but that’s not the point here. The point is that you must start to see yourself as a perfect physical being. Whatever God you believe in created you to be perfect, did he not? Do you understand the perfect set of coincidences that had to happen for you to even be born? Your parents had to be in the right place at the right time. The right sperm at to make it’s way through, and, as you grew, your mothers habits influenced everything that you would become.
What have you been putting off because someone else already needs your money or time? “But I just don’t have the time” you say. When will you have the time then? Here’s a thought. Stop watching t.v. Just cancel it. There. Problem solved and about 15 hours added to your week. What could you do in 15 hours per week? Write a book? Exercise? Perhaps you want to go back to school or learn to play the guitar? Maybe you just saw the review for a delightful little restaurant and your husband isn’t interested in going. Treat yourself! You deserve it. Maybe you’re interested in martial arts but your wife is intimidated by the idea? That’s fine. Go for it. It’s time for you to look after you.
So what’s my favorite way to treat myself? Get a massage. The touch of another human being is powerful. Especially the touch of someone who is dedicated to the healing arts. Many of us do not get enough physical contact in our daily lives. It is even proven that regular physical contact is a requirement for spiritual and emotional health. Something as simple as a hug can have healing benefits for the mind body and soul that can be far more powerful than any medication.
Should I go on?
Do you compliment yourself? Do you praise yourself for a job well done?
Do you love yourself? In fact, this is bigger than perhaps any other idea here. Look at yourself in the mirror. Really look. Look at your wrinkles, wispy hair, eyelashes and peach fuzz. You need to see yourself through fresh eyes. Pick a body part and focus on it every day until you love it. Every time you look in the mirror make it a point to compliment yourself on that body part. It may take some time but you will begin to love it.
Keep it up!
Peace and love and candy to everyone